Tuesday, December 31, 2013

WANDER ONWARDS

Re-blogging a blog post by Wander Onwards
She not only inspires me to do everything before I hit a certain age, but also to experience life in a different way.

P.S. I love the view of Hong Kong!





23 THINGS TO DO INSTEAD OF GETTING ENGAGED BEFORE YOU’RE 23


Marriage
As 2013 wraps up, I’ve been noticing more and more people getting engaged and/or married under the age of 23.
I get it.
It’s cold outside… you want to cuddle and talk about your feelings… life after graduation is a tough transition… so why not just cut to the chase and get married, right?  It’s hip. It’s cool. You get to wear clothing that wouldn’t normally be socially acceptable at the dive bar you frequent with the $5 beers.  Eff it. YOLO. YOMO! You only marry once…
Oh wait.
The divorce rate for young couples is more than twice the national average. Divorce is no longer a staple in a midlife crisis, but rather, something that SEVENTEEN Magazine should probably be printing on. Headlines could read,
“How to budget for your prom AND your wedding in the same year!”
“What’s HOT: Kids raising Kids.”
“Why your Mom doesn’t really know what she’s talking about.”
Because at the age of 22, I have no idea who I am, what I’m doing, and who I’ll be doing it with for the next year… let alone for the rest of my life.  And that’s awesome.
Some day, I want to get married too.  I want a floor length dress with a ton of cleavage.  I want it to be in Asia, with Ethiopian food, and a filthy scotch selection to calm my nerves when I inevitably start to panic and hyperventilate.  But WANT and NEED are two entirely different things. I NEED to develop MY dreams and MYSELF before I can truly be the type of woman you WANT to marry.
What inspired me to scribble down my feelings (so many feelings!) is The Facebook.  I’m seeing all of these notifications that “X and Y” have joined in matrimony and instantly, these waves of anxiety start to flow over me.  Should I be thinking about marriage? I’ve never even had a serious boy friend? Is there something wrong with me? WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME AND WHY HAS NO ONE TOLD ME ABOUT IT FOR ALL THESE YEARS!?
But then I look at my life, my relationships, and my future… and I realize that, I’m fucking awesome.  It literally isn’t me, it’s them.
I have begun to notice a common thread amongst all these young unions: inexperience.  Inexperience with dating, traveling, risks, higher education, career direction, SEX, solitude, religious exploration, etc… and it’s insane that I have already experienced more of the world in the last 22 years than my married peers will ever experience in their life.
I can’t help but feel like a lot of these unions are a cop-out.
It is a way for young people to hide behind a significant other instead of dealing with life’s highs and lows on their own. It’s a safety blanket. It’s an admission that the world is just too big and scary to deal with it on your own; thus, you now have someone that is legally obligated to support you till one of you dies or files for divorce.
Which could be tomorrow, because the LGTBQ community isn’t ruining the sanctity of marriage, the Kardashian family is.
If your love is truly eternal, what’s the rush? If it’s real, that person will continue to be committed to you 2 months from now, 2 years from now, and 2 decades from now. Grow, learn, travel, party, cuddle, read, explore. Do. Freaking. Something… other than “settle down” at 23 with a white picket fence.
Because you owe it to yourself.  You are a human being that deserves to thrive inside AND outside of a relationship.
We are not our parent’s generation.  I’m tired of hearing about how “my mom and dad got married young and X, Y and Z” because they were raised with a completely different set of values, priorities, and without the anxieties and adulterous risks that comes with the worldwide web.  I’m speaking directly to the Millennials.
Millennials deserve the opportunity to develop ourselves, alone.
I recognize that my opinion is not going to be popular on The Facebook… especially amongst those who fall into the “under 23” category.  I would be confused if I didn’t receive some sort of online backlash or a loss of friends on The Facebook.  Some how… I will move forward.
But in the words of my 15 year-old sister, “Sorry I’m not sorry.”
Sure.  Some days I wake up and stare at my ceiling thinking: “I’m single as fuck.”  But then I realize that those friends are going to get knocked up and fat soon sssoooo in retrospect, who really is winning here? I’m in China. I’m having the best time of my life. I am responsible for my own happiness.
Please enjoy these 23 things to do instead of getting engaged before you’re 23.
1. Get a passport.
2. Find your “thing.”
3. Make out with a stranger.
4. Adopt a pet.
5. Start a band.
6. Make a cake. Make a second cake. Have your cake and eat it too.
7. Get a tattoo. It’s more permanent than a marriage.
8. Explore a new religion.
9. Start a small business.
10.Cut your hair.
11. Date two people at once and see how long it takes to blow up in your face.
12. Build something with your hands.
13. Accomplish a Pinterest project.
14. Join the Peace Corps.
15. Disappoint your parents.
16. Watch GIRLS, over and over again.
17. Eat a jar of Nutella in one sitting.
18. Make strangers feel uncomfortable in public places.
19. Sign up for CrossFit.
20. Hangout naked in front of a window.
21. Write your feelings down in a blog.
22. Be selfish.
23. Come with me to the Philippines for Chinese New Year.
… because at the end of the day, I just gotta wander onwards. Wishing everyone whiskey and wanderlust during the holidays.
XOXO V

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

CHRISTMAS



Chillin' in my new loeffler randall before the festivities begin. Merry Christmas!

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

VINTAGE





Jeffrey Campbell 'Everly' Ankle Boots

One of my favorite fall purchases are my Jeffrey Campbell ankle boots. I love pairing these with my ripped boyfriend jeans, which gives it an edgy look. I can't wait to wear these bad boys in the summer! 


Sunday, November 24, 2013

MY FIRST







Rag & bone purchase! I'm obsessing and drooling over the new collection. 

Friday, November 15, 2013

COMFORTABLE, CASUAL, CHIC.


J.Crew sweater, Ralph Lauren boyfriend jeans, Converse, Urban Outfitters beanie


Thursday, October 31, 2013

NOT SO PREPPY




J.Crew sweater
Nordstrom denim shirt
H&M black jeans
Zara pumps

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

PRINT ON PRINT



...with a taste of leather. I paired my recent purchase leather jacket from Trouve with my Banana Republic peplum top, skinny jeans and bronze flats from Aldo. My black lace scarf also didn't feel right on my neck, so I decided to change it to my black and white scarf from h&m before hitting the doors!

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!



Happy 21st birthday to my little sister, KayceeIt felt so weird going to the club with my little sister, but I am so glad I got to spend the night with her. My sister normally does not wear dresses; her style is very opposite of mine!

Outfit
Black h&m halter top 
Zara flare skirt and heels
Clutch from Agnes B
Anarchy Street jewelry.




Saturday, October 12, 2013

RAG & BONE SPRING '14






Some of my favorite outfits from the Rag & Bone's Spring 2014 collection. It's seriously to die for! 
The deep V-necks, leather vest, and geometrical skirts is on point and what really caught my attention. The color combination really blends well with the dark and neutral color tons.